Oh, yes, the friendship day! At least a week in advance, the friendship bands dazzle in every alternate shop. Like the umpteen messages that start raining on the very many groups! These group messages have a pattern.
They celebrate friendship as a naughty and nutty, partner-in-crime, affair, rather like the "ehsaan mere dil pe tumhara hai doston" type song of the sixties! So quite Bollywood-y messages flood the group. I would not know whether-n-how to agree with such hollow definitions because I do feel quite strongly that a friend STOPS you from (m)any silly naughtiness.
Yes, you laugh a lot together, you enjoy the small to big joyous moments together. But the moment your friend is up to some real mischief, you WOULD stop your friend from such silliness, right? If necessary, you would fight; at times, there might even be a strain in the relationship, but you would not allow your friend any stupidity.
In that sense, friendship is gossamer thin-n- soft, and yet stronger than any steel rod. In fact, I do not even agree with the "in need" definition. One does not use(-n-throw) any body, and surely not a friend. Typically quoted in this context is the Krishna-Sudama example. Honestly, neither used either. In fact, their friendship is THE best example of a selfless togetherness without any misunderstandings or expectations.
Of course, most of us are not that divine. So, at times, misunderstandings do crop up. Yet if you care for that friendship, you do not blow them out of proportion, and you sort them out immediately, trying to understand where you yourself possibly went wrong, right?
SURELY you do not backbite, gossip, slander, right? You are upfront, and forget the issue in the 'let bygones be bygones' mode, right? Unfortunately, MOST relationships these days are the exact opposite of such basic necessities. They are like the mushrooms that crop up in the rainy season, and are equally short-lived. But it is such people who make the most noise about empty friendship, and aloud!
Then who is the best friend? I do insist that your sibling IS your bestest friend. You have shared so much, and especially in your formative years, that NOTHING can wipe out that awareness of each other, whatever might be the changes that life may bring. Birds of a feather do flock together! Your siblings' kids matter to you, your siblings' success delights you, your siblings' unspoken hurts haunt you! Salamat rahta hai yeh dostana!
Beyond that, I think that nature, beginning with the plants in your small little garden, is always a great friend. In the Wordsworthian mode, I can assure anyone that all these moments do flash upon the inward eye! Why, in a way, I am still (lingering) in Yamunotri, Gangotri and Kedarnath. The Himalayas would forever continue to be my loveliest friends. Salamat hi rahta hai yeh bhi dostana!
Better still is the friendship with books. They are a great mirror which shows the world, others and one's own self in the worst and in the best light. So are one's hobbies, such as the arts, one's very good friends as they, too, allow you to be (yourself). Artless friendship! Lives in (he)art! Salamat rahe such dostana, right?
Care for friends who are alive? Nobody like a pet for whom you alone matter, neither your successes, nor your failures. He is never going to mock you, belittle you, smirk at you. Instead, he is just going to love you for being yourself. It is the real "maitr jiwan che" to quote Sant Dnyaneshwar. Salamat rahta hi hai yeh dostana!
Yet, THE BESTEST BUDDY, in my opinion, is your own self. Salamat rahna chahiye ye (s)achcha dostana! Here you can be as self-reflexive as you want to be. Once you enjoy this friendship, you can always be alone in any crowd, without ever feeling/being lonely! No crises can then crumble you. Forever can you be humble as to thine own self art thou true, as Socrates so said!
Pratima@Happy Friendship Day! Feliz dia de la amistad! Schönen Tag der Freundschaft! Bonne journée de l'amitié! Yūjō no hi omedetō! मैत्रीदिनस्य हार्दिक्या: शुभकामनाः ! मैत्री दिन की शुभकामनाऐं! मैत्री दिना निमित्त शुभेच्छा! 🌺🌺🌺