Whenever a man harasses a woman, a typical question gets asked which quotes, which refers to womenfolk who are his relations, be it his mother, be it his sister, be it his wife, be it his daughter, be it the cousin, and so on. At times, when the issue is indeed grave and serious, even the grandma is remembered!
However sad such a quoting is, it may/need not always shame the villain, especially when the man concerned is a shameless crook. In fact, it may even be maintained, though every generalisation is always problematic, that men who harass other women not related to them would most probably have a problematic female relationship in their intimate circle.
It could be an overbearing mother reducing him to a mamma's boy or a bossy wifey on whose maika ka monies the poor soul depends for survival, and hence has to bear her bad behaviour every which way , i suppose.
Having a harridan at home is no excuse, however, to harass other absolutely innocent women, however much a contrast they might be to the horrid harpy of a hag back at home, right? It is always such unhappy men, whose womenfolk would be up to no good every possible way, who would bother, ill-treat other women
By contrast, men, whose womenfolk are a s(up)port, would never need to quote or harass anybody else's sister or mother. The best example of my assertion could be Shivaji Maharaj. Since he had an exemplary mother like Jijabai and an ideal wife like Saibai and a good sister, too, he never ill-treated any woman. Even when the most beautiful daughter-in-law of the Kalyan subhedar was ''available"to him, he sent her away with respect, her dignity intact. I can quote any number of such wonderful men in folk themes to literature to real life.
In brief, home is where good or bad behaviour is reared! 'Ghare' is always 'bahire'!.
Pratima@ Home is where the (he)art of decent behaviour is/begins!
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