Remember Hamlet berating his mother's behaviour? " Frailty, thy name is woman," is how he dismisses womankind. In the play, with the ghost constantly egging him on for "revenge", such negative destruction of Gertrude's 'i'dentity may appear plausible.
Allow me to say that in real life, it is exactly the other way round. Woman, thy name is integrity, reliability, and strength! But then you are a constant 'mole in the eye' of certain people.
Often such 'beam in thine own eyes' variety of people have a field day, especially if you are non-aggressive because then you do not appear a threat to them. You do not have any nuisance value. They know, moreover, that you would not even belong to their, or, for that matter, any other mafia.
Utter any syllable, and voilà! They would be tongs, hammers and scissors, and with every other weapon accessible, at you! Better to give you concrete examples, right?
Suppose, you are in good health. You take reasonably good care of your well-being. You are a fresh entrant in to the "senior citizen" category. All fine so far? Express any desire, wish, hope, and there would be these men, nay, not only men, but especially women, of the 'pointing fingers at you' type, who think that it is their bounden duty to oppose it. The typical strategy is ageism!
No, it is NOT concern. You can see (the hidden from the whole world behind the "oh-I-mean-well" facade) the conscious wink, the uncontrollable smirk, the subtle nastiness that is overflowing unmistakably. Such 'snake in the grass' people, women especially, are hypocrisy, viciousness and nastiness incarnate. Their greatest asset is pretending to be straightforward so that they can hide behind the curtain of 'truthful talk' which is always intense criticism of you so as to overcome their own very many inferiority complexes.
They, moreover, are ambitiousness personified. They have a constant desire to prove to the whole world that they are THE super-woman. They have to manage some very minor success, and there would be a clarion call! Their very many cheap 'groupee'-s, too, consider it a god-given duty to praise them sky high.
Such are hyper competitive, and can go to the meanest possible level to ruin you, to sabotage your life and career, to spread around you a web of conscious wickedest propaganda. For no fault of you, you are their eternal target.
How to deal with them? First and foremost, never ever say anything at all. They are thus non-plussed. Next, stay as far away from them as is possible. Do not, moreover, respond, react, reply. Remember, their tear glands are conveniently over-active, and they are excellent at garnering superficial sympathy!
Silently, in brief, continue your slow, steady but sure progress in the direction of self- betterment. Remember always, "woman, thy middle name is self-reflexivity, resilience, and fortitude"!
Pratima@ Such are amusingly double-faced. Proper Janus! They would dismiss, nay, trash someone's deep grief. The next moment, or, tops a few minutes later, they would be all consolation, commiseration, care for that very person!
Quote of the day: "A (wo)man may smile and smile, and be a villain' says Hamlet to mean 'a person can appear friendly, warm, and kind, while actually hiding malicious, deceitful, downright dangerous intentions.'
Word of the day: ageism Ageism refers to stereotyping, prejudices, or discriminations against individuals based on their age. Ageism is never ever positive in tone.
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