You See/say what YOU are

 I was just listening to what X was saying about Y. At such times when anonymity matters, one can always call in Shakespeare as one's alibi, given his Juliet's great assertion about names. 

Let us get back to our theme today. While Y pandered to X's vanity, Y was  great according to X.  The moment Y moved an inch away from X's interpretation of self, that very Y was the worst person ever living! Funny, no? Hence the title today, which anyways is a word game on Descartes' famous axiom.

Actually, what we think and  what we say about others, how we treat others reveal a lot about ourselves, and, in fact, absolutely nothing about the other(s).  Our words, like our actions, are mirrors of our selves, not of the objects of our talk/activities. A mean remark/action about someone else shows your cheapness actually, does not it?

The same holds true with competitive behaviour. Only an insecure person would try to wipe out a better alternative. When you are confident in your own skin, you are sure nobody can steal your success/limelight. In fact, you consider a person better than you as a learning opportunity, as a chance to work on yourself. Anyways, even if you block a good person in one particular context, the person is sure to shine some where else, sooner than later,  and that brilliance is going to show 'you' up, right?

Aai-Papa never allowed us cheap gossip or silly comments against others. Nor did they themselves indulge in it. At times, hence,  I do not know how to deal with such frenemies!

Would you agree with me if I say that a woman suffers the worst in such name-shaming game? If a woman is friendly, she is a flirt. If she does not respond to the obvious overtures, she is frigid or a lesbian! If she is sincere about her work, she is ambitious. If she is lackadaisical about what she does, well, a woman after all. If she achieves anything, she is not brilliant, but she used her charms! 

The best way, I suppose, to deal with such carping is to send it to the trash bin of  your mind, right? Better always to remember the story of the old man, his son and their donkey, is not it? Well, let one's critics and frenemies flourish.  One thus has nothing to lose, except one's possible mistakes!

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