Misbehaving

 Whom do you insult the most when you misbehave? I suppose, the simplest answer to that question would be 'the victim of your bad behaviour'. Well, i am not sure that would be the right answer, forget, the correct one. 

If the victim of your cheap, silly behaviour is a sensible person, she would completely ignore it as a delusional fantasy of a sick mind's attempt at self aggrandising which actually is the best proof of solid insecurities within. In fact, such a person would understand your wrong behaviour as admission of your multiple weaknesses, including lack of faith in oneself, right?

Well, when you misbehave, do you expose your upbringing? Yes, to quite sone extent. Your behaviour patterns show up the value systems, or the lack thereof, instilled in you, especially by your mother as she is the most intimate influence on you.

Personally, however, i feel that when you misbehave, especially when you are a fully grown adult, you misrepresent your own self. In other words, you are showing up yourself in extreme bad light. As an adult, everyone in his senses, would know that you make all your choices, beginning with simple choices about food, clothes to everything else!

 Similarly, when you behave stupidly, cheaply, with a terrible lack of manners, you are revealing yourself in the worst possible way. Nothing can be an excuse to condone it. Very many people have suffered extreme difficulties, terrible misfortunes without a single fault of theirs. Instead of mollycoddling themselves constantly, they have risen above the occasion, and made superb, great contributions to mankind. So why choose to be a mediocrity, right?

You do not believe me! Well, look at the current Harry saga on the world stage. He did not manage to belittle any one of his victims who, in fact, gained sympathy and credits for calm sensibility. People, moreover, found chinks in his mother's glamour. Most importantly, he made a complete fool of himself. 

He is at the end of multiple and very many brickbats. Not only in the present, but in the very history, he has now become a byword for all that is totally bad . Well, his goal was to humiliate his father and the family. Especially he tried real hard to tarnish the people on  his father's side. Instead, he managed to spatter mud only over himself.

In Marathi, my mother tongue, there is a proverb for such behaviour which could be roughly translated as "cutting your nose to spite someone else". Well, there is no effect whatsoever on your victim.  Instead, through such self indulgence, you make your own personal image disfigured for a lifetime!

Pratima@Bad behaviour costs a lot, and pays nothing in return! What poor trade off indeed!